1) We are not secular. We are Reform Jews.
2) We have a love of God, Torah, and Israel. But probably not in the same way you do. Actually, really not in the same way you do. But valid and authentic nonetheless.
3) While many of us are not observant in the “traditional” way, most of us have a healthy respect for our history and the evolution of our traditions. Many of us have chosen to incorporate a few, some, or all of those mitzvot and/or customs into our lives in a way that is meaningful to us and respectful of our past.
4) Many of us are not familiar with other forms of Judaism, or some things about Judaism in general. Please do not hold our lack of education against us – do not mistake it for disrespect or dislike. Most of the time, it was how we were raised and not something we had a choice about. Many of us are working on that – please respect our process.
5) It is insulting to ask us, “But your mother’s Jewish, right?”. In Reform Judaism, the child of either a Jewish mother OR a Jewish father is considered Jewish. Most often, that child is raised completely Jewish and knows nothing else. So to question that person’s status point blank is demeaning and offensive, even if you do not consider that person Jewish. And unless that person is potentially joining your minyan or your family, it is not your business.
Ok, anyone have anything else to add? Feel free to comment!